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Where I've been

This morning, someone pointed out to me that it has been a month, exactly a month, a whole month, since I last posted here. I nearly choked.

The truth is, I’ve been having a hard time. Nothing around here looks the same as it did, pre-restaurant, and to be perfectly honest, though I like this new life, I also miss the old one. There’s no point in trying to hide it. I’ve been dealing with a lot of exhaustion, and it’s been difficult to feel creative, eager to cook and write here - or do pretty much anything except watch Battlestar Galactica on Netflix. It’s a dire situation when you go to the dentist, as I did this morning, and it actually feels relaxing, like some sort of reprieve, to get to sit there for an hour with a faceful of metal instruments and suction devices. Listen, you people out there who have babies and operate on a constant sleep deficit and STILL manage to blog: you’re a miracle. I don’t know how you do it. Maybe it’s the fact that babies are cute? If Delancey could nuzzle my neck and coo, maybe everything would feel easier.

Either way, what I really wanted to say is this: that I haven’t forgotten about you, or about our conversations here, and that I am trying to find my way back. The first step is for me to cut back my hours at the restaurant, which I have just begun to do. Then, of course, I have to figure out where the hell my energy went. And I have to acknowledge, too, that things are just different around here. It’s a new balancing act, and I have yet to master it. But I want to. Soon.


Blogger mamster said...

You can park a baby on your lap and start typing, but if you try that with a restaurant, you'll set your lap on fire.

4:28 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Unplanned Cooking said...

It's so hard to find balance in life. I hope you are able to find yours.

4:29 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Fun Mommy K said...

New and different can be exhausting. Take care of yourself and when you are ready, we'll be here. :)

4:30 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Sealicious said...

Take all the time you need . . . we'll always be here!

4:33 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Jessica said...

I started reading your blog after your last post, and I love it. I hope you come back and I'm sending good vibes your way.

4:34 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Grapefruit said...

I just barely discovered your blog right before you big break. I love it and am so happy to see you back! I only wish I lived up in your neck of the woods so I could actually try some of that pizza. It looks amazing. Looking forward to new posts, whenever that may be!

4:37 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger melissa said...

I really enjoyed listening to you on Weekday this morning, and I was even happier to hear you're not done blogging. And I couldn't hear you more on the life balance thing - I don't know how people with children do it! I'm hoping you figure that out first so I can read about it!

4:48 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Hang in there, Molly. We will all be here waiting for you when you return.:)

4:49 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger My Farmhouse Kitchen said...

Everybody goes through good and not so good times in their life. But you know what...you'll make it..and you'll be o.k. and someday you'll look back ....and even though it was tough....you'll smile.

4:50 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Cate said...

but, is there joy, too? in the restaurant, that is? i hope so. sending hugs and some time to yourself (minus the dentist).

4:50 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Ciao Chow Linda said...

You have to listen to your body. Take care of it and get back to blogging in the future. When going to the dentist is your r&r, something has to change. We'll still be here for you if you take a blogging break.

4:55 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Alex said...

I worked at the Bread Peddler in Olympia when it opened and go back occasionally to visit my former bosses and coworkers. It takes a long time to pull yourself away from your work. If you find yourself still sleep-starved and crazy in five years but still open, you are in good shape. Now if that's the case in ten years...

4:56 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Lara said...

I started reading your blog a couple of months ago and I'm absolutely hooked.

I love living vicariously through this adventure of yours, but I'm equally happy to experience this exhaustion you speak of second hand! (Not to rub it in.)

Lucky for all of us your archives run deep. In fact, I slipped some of that Boiled Kale around my shoulders at lunch today. It really was lovely.

Thanks for being here (even if it is less often than we would all like).


4:58 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Amber said...

Babies take lots of naps - and you can put them in swings and other gadgets that keep them occupied...I laughed out loud at the dentist part - I've been there...We know when you aren't here you are working your butt off at Delancey..we can just go read a chapter of your book if we miss you too much :-)

4:59 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Jennywenny said...

ha ha, mamster is funny. I hope you find some balance.

I dont know if it will make you feel better that I attended a totally awesome wedding this weekend and made 4 recipes of your hearts and minds cakes, and gave them your book as a wedding present. It went down exactly as wonderfully as I'm sure you would expect.

The wierdest thing was, it was at this giant manor house in wales and they had a big green dresser which was almost identical to the one you photographed for the cover of your book.

Oh dear. I sound like an insane stalker fan, please dont take it the wrong way.

5:00 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous jen a said...

so nice to "hear" your voice again molly. i think we all struggle with balance - i know it is a constant struggle for me and it takes so much work sometimes to keep the hearth of creativity burning when there are so many other things pulling me in so many directions. as someone who grew up with a father in the restaurant business, i think you are incredible for what you have taken on and i for one very patiently await your return with complete and utter understanding.


p.s. the cooing really does help ;)

5:01 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger amelia said...

Well, we miss you, but I am so excited for your restaurant baby, and at least we all have the recipes to keep us company. Seattle is second on my list of places to visit in the next year, and Delancey is the top of my list of things to do in Seattle (well, after seeing my relatives). Hang in there!

5:05 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Rae-Rae said...

Don't worry. I still come back everyday. Just do it bird by bird.

5:06 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger nanisteele said...

Welcome to the world of running a restaurant–it aint easy, that's for sure so give yourself a break. Plus to point out that you've been steering the creative there as well and soon it will be running smoothly on its own (or with lots of help from staff). I've been there and done that, and can honestly say–I loved it as long as it lasted. I look forward to stopping in sometime.

5:07 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Sarah Beam said...

Even babies aren't cute at 2 o'clock in the morning. We miss you around here.

5:15 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Mardi @eatlivetravelwrite said...

Balance is a constant challenge. I am new to your blog but from what I read, you will find your way soon!

5:44 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Kristin said...

We'll be here.

5:45 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Elaine said...

all the best, we are here for you.

5:52 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Puddle Puss said...

Wow. It sounds suspiciously like you're growing up. Or the restaurant is growing you up and out a little. There is GREAT learning for you right now. Get some sleep so you can see it. And write about it. I'm a big, big fan, Molly! I think you're a great, fun, smart girl. I live in Portland and have "Seattle" on my to-do list just so I can eat at Delancey.

Oh, and jennywenny, don't worry about "stalking behavior". Remember, our Ms Wizenberg MARRIED one of her blog-stalkers. :)

PS Don't forget to look after your marriage. It won't go on without you.

6:03 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Maggie said...

good luck finding your new balance. we'll be here when you're ready.

6:04 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Liz said...

I started reading your blog and book just as you started posting less frequently and I'm still here! Best wishes on finding balance...heaven knows I'm trying and I'm not even a mom...just a workaholic!

6:05 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Sallie Ann said...

Take a breath and find your balance. Sleep as much as you can. You have such a fan club...everyone will wait. Be easy with yourself.

6:09 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Julie said...

I can totally relate to the concept of going to the dentist as a break. Would it make you feel better to know that last time I went I fell asleep, snored, jolted myself awake and almost choked on the suction tube?

I am perfectly happy to flip through the archives in your absence. I always come across something new, and it's all timeless.

6:29 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Ann said...

molly, sigh... it is so nice to hear from you. please do take care of yourself and i hope you find balance soon...

6:32 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Bria said...

I have had the very same feeling in the dentist's chair ("no one can email me right now, wheeeeeeee! more minty sludge, please!").

Transitions are the pits. Now that the restaurant is off and running, you're in that transition between the getting-it-launched phase to the how-do-we-live-while-doing-this phase. There are so many days ahead of you - it's okay if you can't get everything done in each one right now. Though all of us here in Orangette readerland are eager to read about what happens next, we're more eager to know that all is well with you and that you're feeling settled in this new chapter in your life.

It will work. Beautifully, even.

6:46 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Chris Mower said...

I'm glad to see you're back. I've been following your blog for a while. I completely understand how you've been feeling... well, it's probably a lie to say completely... I also recently felt extremely overwhelmed with everything going on and decided to cut back on everything and just minimalize my lifestyle to the necessities. Everything else just felt like clutter. That's helped me quite a bit, though I wouldn't say that helps everyone. I hope you find peace and balance in your life. When there are so many things that attract us and call our attention, it's hard to prioritize. As long as you do what's most important to you every day, you're doing awesome.

6:52 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger the projectivist said...

change is good though, isn't it?
hope you find some extra time in the day for relaxing.

7:08 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger TresArtsy said...

It really is permissible, in fact necessary, to rest your creative bones every so often! Recharge, regroup and return even stronger…bonne chance!

7:11 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger elizabeth said...

Lucky for us we have your book and old posts to keep us company. Contemporary culture is weirdly opposed to being tired, or consumed, but I am all for it. Sometimes you need to readjust. I totally understand.

7:13 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger michaela said...

we'll be here waiting when you find your way back again.

for now, what we get in BA will have to do.

7:14 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Superchef said...

Good to see you back. Have been missing your posts. A new venture can be very exciting and exhausting and all of us out here understand that. Hope you get the balance right soon!

7:18 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous D. at Outside Oslo said...

Look at all this encouragement from your readers! For what it's worth, you should know you're an inspiration to us.

I just started blogging a month and a half ago, and reading the work of blogging veterans like you provides so much insight into the process and the possibilities.

Thank you!

7:21 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger denise said...

I even enjoy reading your "I'm exhausted" posts. You have a lovely writing style. I hope you are able to get some sleep soon...maybe a bath...some time with a nice novel...a cup of tea. Take care.

7:28 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Lisa :-] said...

Good luck. I bought a restaurant three years ago, and I'm still exhausted.

7:41 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Lisa said...

Molly, Thank you for your honesty. If we readers lived close enough to your restaurant, we would offer you reprieve by volunteering some hours so you could take off early--At least I would!
Take it easy, and make some more dentist (fake) appointments if necessary! : )

7:44 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Amanda said...

Made your classic carrot cake for my son's 3rd birthday party on Saturday. You're blog is a gift that keeps on giving even if you're here in person less often. Ever hear of blogging without obligation? Focus where focus need be!

8:02 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Clarisse said...

I like how the dentist is a reprieve from the pie biz. I used to run a crepe shop with my ex and I could definitely relate to that sentiment... only that it becomes like giving birth - it takes on a life of its own, the business. Much like writing a book, too?

8:04 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger hannah said...

i went to the dentist last week and thought the EXACT same thing. and now i'm wondering, you think brandon could teach arlo how to make pizza? she'd be good with an oven? different is good, the hard part is figuring out how to make the different the new normal, but you've got smarts kid. red hair & freckles = smarts, right?

8:25 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous lillie said...

Take your time finding your balance. You'll have an eager & loving audience happy to hear from you whenever you can!

I loved Brian's recent photos and post of your charming (if life-consuming) restauarant. Hoping to get a chance to visit there in the next year!

8:27 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger sara said...

I'm two months new to seattle, your blog, and my job. And spent an hour and a half in the dentist chair this morning taking deep breaths (as possible) and meditating on the joy of having an hour to myself and an hour less of work in the day. My sanity revolves around running, yoga, and cooking a hearty dinner with my husband. All of which have been in short supply since I started this new chapter. Good luck!

8:41 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger joanie said...

You WILL figure it out... and sometimes, believe it or not, that's the best part!

Remember, life is a journey,
not a destination!

Wishing you sleep...soon.

8:42 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger A Day That is Dessert said...

I'm amazed at all you do Molly...truly. I loved hearing your voice on KUOW today. In terms of the exhaustion factor (related to parenting at least) the cute factor does help, and you also kind of get used to it? Tell yourself it doesn't last forever I guess? I'm glad you're working on getting some coverage at the restaurant so you can get some much needed rest and time away. xoxo

8:45 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Genevieve said...

Always happy to have whatever peeks into your life you can give us.

Just a quick thank you for sharing, too. I just (ahem) devoured your book, sobbing through decent sized chunks. I lost my father weeks after you lost yours in very similar situations. You had so many details that opened up the wounds (cans of Ensure, for example), but it also feels good to remember and think of how proud he'd be. I hope you're feeling the same way.

Wishing I had an excuse to visit Seattle and Delancey...

Take care.

8:51 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Angie Kritenbrink said...

Is it exhaustion or a change in voice? I think your loyal readers will understand if you evolve . . .

8:59 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger The Coach's Wife said...

we'll be here whenever life brings you back to us! until then, you've given us a treasure trove of conversations to revisit and recipes to enjoy.

i'm hoping for a trip to seattle next month, and delancey is #1 on my list while i'm there!

9:01 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Olaiya said...

Hey Lady. Heard you on Weekday this morning--made my morning drive much more interesting! Just for the record, you are doing a brilliant, glorious, smashing and most impressive job of running Delancey with Brandon, writing and being an all around swell gal. (Even though it probably doesn't feel like it.) Bravo!

9:16 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Adam said...

Dear Molly, I heard you on KUOW today and enjoyed the talk, but what I found was a treasure in reading your blog. Outstanding and look forward to getting and reading your book. Don't ever feel bad as it sounds like your busy enough. Take care and Thanks for sharing.


9:20 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger HAH said...

I started a new job in May and I still haven't returned to blogging regularly! I can't seem to get back "on top of things" and have decided to just roll with it and give up non-essentials like blogging and entertaining. I'm sure many of my friends think I've dropped of the face of the earth! Hang in there -- you are not alone!

9:24 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Ali and Evan said...

As the owners and writers of a two year old cafe and blog in Portland, OR please believe us when we say: we know exactly how you're feeling. While we're still exhausted and fighting for balance between the personal and the professional, we're still completely addicted to the roller coaster ride that is owning and operating a restaurant. That said, please allow us to offer this small piece of advice: hold on to one another, you and Brandon that is, and remember why you began this whole project in the first place: your love for each other. In the end that bond MUST trump all.

9:25 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger antonietta said...

Hi Molly,
I totally understand your stress. Opening a restaurant is hard enough, but actually working in it day to day can take a major toll on your life. It is important to find the joy in the everyday ( and not at the Dentist!) and to realize that you and Brandon were given a great gift... each other!

9:49 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger karen said...

It IS because they are cute and they coo, and you keep waiting for the day they can hug you back. Without that.... hell, even WITH that there are brief moments when I miss pre-baby life. But like me with baby and you with Delancey, I'm sure we wouldn't really change a thing. Good luck finding time and balance!

9:52 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Cyndi said...

". . .whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul."
--Excerpted from Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

Even though it's cliché, there's truth in there! Thank you for your work. It is a beacon that brings me back time after time.

10:02 PM, October 20, 2009  
Anonymous Katie said...

Oh, Molly, I wish I could drive up there once in a while and make you dinner, tuck you into bed, and just generally be your mom. I can't imagine how tired you and Brandon must be all of the time, and to try and add a well written post to that? It's just too much. Take care of yourself, ok? xo

10:12 PM, October 20, 2009  
OpenID cei-face said...

Everyone gets their "funks". The great thing about them is that we get over them.

And plus, if you're watching BSG, there's nothing to worry about. Starbuck will watch out for you. ;)

10:17 PM, October 20, 2009  
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10:29 PM, October 20, 2009  
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10:32 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger erita said...

glad to hear you're back, even for a (breathless) moment. delancey is fantastic--the pizza, the atmosphere, the burrata (!), the mismatched silverware, and especially that plum crumble--yum.

i'm so glad you and brandon are willing to put so much of yourselves into such a great place!

and now i'm enjoying your book--saturday's downpour made the perfect excuse to curl up in bed, and get lost in it, except that i kept wanting to jump up and run to the kitchen to cook every recipe. and the perfect excuse to update my blog again after too long away. your words continue to inspire. take care, rest up, and everything will take care of itself, somehow.

10:53 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger Gemma said...

I can relate all too well at the moment. Just take your time and take care.

Gemma x

11:31 PM, October 20, 2009  
Blogger chunk said...

Take care ya.. its hard work but all worth it!

12:35 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Lucretia said...

Don't give up. You will find balance. It takes time to find out what will work for you. It least you realize that you need to take some time for yourself.

Also, I am enjoy your book. I makes me want to get back in the kitchen again. (I had a restaurant for ten years).

1:13 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's ok, Molly, you are still finding your way and you will find it. We all love you and are pulling for you.

2:37 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Caribbean Sunshine said...

I am hooked on your delightfully refreshing, humorous and warm & fuzzy website - and let's not forget your divine recipes! My 2 daughters who are cookaholics and teach high school cooking & nutrition are getting your book for Christmas. When I'm next in your area I will definitely stop in for Padron pizza (I've been drooling over your posted menu). Congratulations and take care!

3:02 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Dina said...

Funny you used the baby analogy cuz I was just remembering the other day how I felt when I brought my son home 21 years ago. I thought,"what have I done! Everything will be different now!" Was it hard? YES! Was it worth it? Most of the time. Would I do it all again? DEFINITELY!
I'm sure it will get better Wendy if you take time for yourself and delegate more. I want Delancy to still be there on my next trip to Seattle!
Almost done with the book. Wonderful!

3:44 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Dina said...

Oops! Molly,I hit the publish button by accident before correcting your name! I'm used to posting on Wendy Chant's blog. Sorry!

3:53 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger oneordinaryday said...

No matter what change comes, you always have to rebalance the rest of your world. Keep plugging away. You'll get there.

4:34 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger kgr said...

Don't beat yourself up about missing your old life. My sister has two toddlers and I have one and we both regularly say that not only do we miss our old life pre-kids, but we long for it. I don't think there is anything wrong with that and honestly, if the dentist creates a reprieve for you so be it. When my son was about four months old I got a break to go to the dentist and my dental hygenist went so far as to delay the dentist coming in at the end of the cleaning for an extra ten minutes so I could just sit there with my eyes closed. Hopefully you'll be able to find some better breaks than the dentist, but take them where you can find them.

Get some rest and we'll be waiting here when you return. You have devoted fans - my sister emailed me this afternoon with an two sentence email that read: "ORANGETTE POSTED!" We aren't going anywhere.

4:36 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Linda said...

i check in every morning...i really do...i was so happy to see this post...we all understand & when you are able we are all here.
fresh coffee is on the cook top waiting...and the food processor poised!

4:56 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Fresh-lee said...

Your legendary Chickpea Salad with Lemon and Parmesan inspired me to start my food blog this year - when that post was already over two years old! So you taking a mini break now gives us newbies time to catch up on all your wonderful recipes. Come back when you're rested and ready!

5:10 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Susan in Amherst, NH said...

I'm single with cats and exhausted every day. Your life has been turned around --for the good! -- but it's still a major life change. You have every reason to need a little down time.

5:37 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Anna (londonfoodieny) said...

we'll wait for you!!! I totally understand the exhaustion I work on as a food stylist on cooking shows and when we're shooting i loose all my creativity and energy to write and then I beat myself up about it...but don't worry you have lots of people supporting you out here in this crazy internet world and who look forward to your return!

6:15 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger la ninja said...

energy tends to hide either behind the living room curtains or atop the kitchen cabinets.

oh yeah, should you happen to find mine, could you please football-kick it this way back to me?

gracias :)

6:21 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger shari said...

hi molly--
such a treat to hear you on the radio (and so fun to find out that i could listen online even in vermont)! take it easy on yourself, friend. giving yourself time and space is a good thing. we'll meet you back here when you're ready. hugs.

6:22 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous mdvlist said...

You're so right. After delivering both of my children, the dentist was pretty much my first excuse to leave the house alone, and it was like going to a spa. I hope you do manage to carve out a little more time for yourself (and us :)).

6:36 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous lisa said...

Love your dentist comment. So true for parenthood too! Your readers miss you but understand. Come back when you can!

6:37 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Mel H said...

Sometimes the Hokey Pokey really is what its all about. Take the time you need to turn yourself around- change is hard for anyone. Your talent will never go away and will always bring your readers back. :-)

6:51 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Veronica E Maier said...

Molly, you're blog is at the very top of my list, you're my inspiration when I sit down to write. Thank you for all your honestly and open-ness with your readers. It's allowed all of us to feel close to you. I hope to some day make my way from Austin all the way to Delancy. Keep on swimming! (Or cooking, or cleaning....)

6:53 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Sonia said...

Your blog has inspired me not only to write a food-related novel but to dream about my own restaurant! Take as much time as you need and know there a ton of peeps rooting for you!

7:00 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Danielle said...

Look, I'm just excited you're watching Battlestar Galactica! Oh, man, it is so good. (Except season 4.5 - it's, um, not as good as the previous seasons. Sigh.)

7:03 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Laura said...

Is what I hear, when you own a restaurant your life is over. Don't they say the same about having kids? I hope that soon you will be able to take a break, not because of the blog, but because you really sound you need one.

At least you are living a wonderful dream. Give yourself a big pat in the back.

7:17 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Rose said...

We all get to that place. Take your time!

7:28 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Lalycairn said...

Glad you had a chance to update us. Take some time to breathe!! Change is hard, even good change. And the restaurant business is a demanding one. Make sure you take some time out for your relationship too!! We'll be here when as you get your balance back.

God bless!!

7:44 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Cheryl Arkison said...

I feel you on the dentist comment. I remember having the same thought after my first baby.

It sounds like you guys are doing really well at the restaurant so I hope as things settle into a good routine you find the balance you need.

8:10 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger moroma said...

Go easy on yourself. Go for a run, get some sleep - or whatever your zen is(even if its a brief one). You are not alone. ;o) - molly from DC

8:18 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good to hear from you Molly. Hang in there, new beginnings create inspiration.

8:27 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Sally Parrott Ashbrook said...

Love and appreciate your honesty here.

8:43 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous CB in Texas said...

Hang in there, girl! You are missed, but we'll still be here when you hit your new stride :o)

9:04 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Liz said...

Just keep watching Battlestar Galactica, I'd say, and rest up whenever possible. Working in restaurants is just plain exhausting! It's all that time on your feet - running around, lifting heavy things, staying up late, pumping adrenaline. Your body (and mind) gets tired! I had that experience, too, when I worked in bars and restaurants. And I was never an owner or manager - that takes MUCH more mental energy.

So take all the time you need, and know that you're a Rockstar, as my sister would say. I think anyone would be exhausted by a schedule like yours (or, at least, I sure would!). Y'all are making all sorts of great stories, though, I'll bet, that you can tell for years to come. What a book this'll make!

9:44 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Giovanna said...

Gosh, go easy on yourself. I'd say netflix is a reasonable way to pass your spare time now. Though I too would worry when the dentist chair becomes relaxing...maybe next time you should tell people you have a dentist appointment and go incognito to a cafe across town instead!

And thanks for sharing this--who needs to have people make things look easy all the time? Just makes me feel inadequate!

9:46 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Jen said...

Can I say that your readers are the best?! I only read through about 1/3 of the comments, but 3 made me actually laugh out loud!
That doesn't happen often.

Its great to see the funny, smart & sensitive people that you attract to this blog.

9:48 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Kerry said...

B-12 vitamin complex! Try the ones that you stick under your tongue. They totally boosted my flagging energy.

You'll get through this. Sending good vibes from Portland.

9:50 AM, October 21, 2009  
OpenID bferry said...

mamster's comment = i'm laughing out loud (or, LOL'ing, as the kids say).

hi there. thinking of you.

10:02 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Mixing Bowl Mama said...

Balance is a hard thing to achieve but I have no doubt you will manage. You do have a new baby keeping you up at night, don't forget, only this baby keeps you away from home, which makes it harder to blog regularly, than say, someone who is home most of the time. Good luck with everything.....

10:07 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous marsha said...

It could be worse, you could be a pharmacy intern. Or have a child, or both... and be menopausal.

10:19 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous carmella said...

Oh, Molly! It was so good to hear your voice again! We've been patient, knowing that this will take time, but it sure was fun to have an Orangette post today!

10:30 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Annie said...

Thank you for being selfless and giving us (your fans)--your blogs. I cherish what you can give and appreciate what a gift you've both been given to share with us-which is the gift of enjoying eating. In our fast paced world, you've made us stop to smell the garlic and savor the taste! I admire your tenacity in turning your passion into reality. If it was easy everyone would do it-like me, which I'm not--so you see--I've proven my point!

10:49 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Keri said...

Hoo boy! When you find out how to balance your passions for life and cooking and launching a restaurant and writing against the exhaustion that goes along with that, you should bottle it up and label it.
We all struggle with it. I took a break from blogging to enjoy the summertime with my girls, and now I realize that it's been months! But I have plans to use the last of this year's tomatoes in a very nice tomato and two fennel soup. The archives (and your book) suit me well, while you rest.

10:55 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Vickie said...

Hey there Molly-

Glad you're back despite the exhaustion.
Can well remember that feeling about 10 + years ago when I left the textile business and entered nursing school. OMG . Little did I know what a 360 change would do to an old body. But , I survived . Take good care

11:00 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Vivian said...

Hang in there! You're doing a wonderful job. The Yelp email this morning said and I quote "Jason A, who's picky when it comes to pies, appreciates Delancey, where 'the thin-crust, minimalist-ingredient style pizza is top-notch, and is all that should matter at a pizza place.'". Way to go! Congratulations!

11:01 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger owl and peacock : melina said...

Molly, you're the sole reason I started a blog. I have no idea where I'm going in my life, and thought something to do would give me, well, something to do. It hasn't really achieved much yet, but soon, hopefully. Meanwhile, you've achieved your goals- been there, done that- and given us so much that we would never be able to hate you for getting back on track! Take forever if needed ;)

11:04 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Jennifer said...

Only the wildly busy can appreciate how relaxing a dentist's appointment can be! Take a well deserved break.

11:07 AM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Amy said...

Look at all these responses! We'll definitely still be here, and we're pulling for you!

11:08 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous jen said...

hi molly. thinking of you. we're pretty faithful folk, as you can see. we're not going anywhere.. how wonderful would it be for you to take comfort and relish in a bit of free time to collect your thoughts... sending hugs!

11:33 AM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous VoofaVoofa said...

Patience, patience. You'll get there! It took me almost two whole years to adjust to my new life as a sleep-deprived mama.

I was just thinking of you yesterday, as I wiped flour from the floor for the sixth time in an hour. I kept thinking, "Man, I have it good. I'm only making three calzones (with a two-year-old "helper"). That Orangette girl - she has to sweep and mop for hours, every night, after countless pizzas - in a much bigger kitchen!"

So, even if you might not be posting here as often, you're still speaking to us. Trust me.

12:14 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger tara said...

mamster wins for comment of the day. I'm typing this on a mobile with a sleeping baby across my lap and his big brother snoring softly in the other room.

Don't worry about us. We understand. We're here.

12:15 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know what you mean about dental visits being relaxing - I've been there when work has gotten crazy too! Looking forward to your return - I just read your book (loaned to me by a friend - I loved it!) and started reading your blog when your posting got lighter than usual. Wish I was in NY so I could try the restaurant! Take care of yourself!

1:19 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So glad to see your post! My kids are grown, the youngest is 22 now but my secret is "you would be surprised what you can accomplish in 15 minutes of uninterrupted dedicated time each day". There I told you my secret how, for all these years I managed to complete quilts, garden, read and cook exciting new things, but of course not all at the same time! chrisq

1:27 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Karen Pride said...

darling, I know exactly what you are talking about, and goodness knows I feel for you. I've followed your travels for awhile now as I was getting my own business off the ground. I ran a food cart for the summer, a SIMPLE FOOD CART. HA! Far from simple. It ripped my soul, energy, creativeness, drive, ambition... everything, ripped everything into shreds. There was an exhaustion that I had no idea existed. Hold on.. it will settle. But along the way, there is no denying the pain and shittiness of it all. Damn this restaurant business that I so adore. Yet, the adoration prevails. In February I'll be opening the doors to one of my own. All this rambling is to say that I understand what you are going through, and I hope that some ease finds you soon. - all the best.

1:54 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Siiri said...

Hang in there, Molly! Everyone I've talked to here in Seattle is totally in love with Delancy, and you've got lots of support from us here in the food world! -Siiri
(also, I finally got my food blog up: www.aHalfCup.com)

2:02 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hope you are able to find the balance you're looking for.

I did want to comment that I came up from Hawaii to Seattle this past weekend and on my To Do List was to eat at Delancey. My friend and I loved it so much we ate there both Friday and Saturday night (even though I was meeting other friends for dinner later that evening - it was that fabulous). And if I may say, the brownie with creme fraiche was To.Die.For.

2:16 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger simply blogged said...

I am glad you are alright. I am also happy to see that you are human.

2:18 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Sara said...

I'm impressed you blog at all. A year or two ago I thought blogging would be awesome, but I have yet to commit a single word. Sleep and work are just taking a higher priority. I'm working on it, though. So are you, and I trust that you will find balance again.

2:18 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Dan said...

keep on pushing on girl! You'll do great!!! I used to work in a top uk restaurant as a chef. I was exhausted for 6 months. I would just sleep on every day off I had.

But after 6 months I had energy in abundance. Water skiing before work and mountain biking at lunch. I have never felt so fit since!

All the best,

Dan http://reallyrustic.blogspot.com/


2:35 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Sara said...

Hi Molly,

Just wanted to say that I really enjoyed your piece in BA this month. If I only get one really good article from you a month, that's fine with me! I'm sad that I don't live close enough to enjoy your new restaurant, but it's at the top of my list should I ever made it your way.

2:49 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous JulieB said...

I'm totally there right now, Molly! My husband just went back to school (beyond full time :-P) and I'm working full time and doing other little stuff on the side to hold down the fort. You can get through this!

2:56 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Mommy of three said...

I had to laugh as I read the part about the dentist. I have a 5, 3 and 1 year old. I stay home with them. And even though I despise going to the dentist, the chance to sit still for an hour, with no one asking me for anything, is heaven. Sometimes I go a bit early to read magazines in the waiting room. I have actually fallen asleep in the chair.
Yes. Big life changes take adjustment. I am totally used to being sleep deprived now. I'm not even that cranky.
I am happily waiting for you to get back to a new normal and be here. In the meantime, I dream of coming up to Seattle and eating at your Delancy. ANd I'm leaving the kids at home!

4:49 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger KT said...

Just started reading your book. Love the recipes, the writing, everything. I am in a similar place right now...one day at a time.

5:50 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Alice said...

Molly, I discovered your site right around the time you opened Delancey. I went out, bought your book, and it made me so excited for the great things to come (and eat) in my own life! I'm looking forward to your return, even if it is different. I'm sure it will still be delicious and heart felt!

6:23 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous pizzabella said...

I just opened a small Italian Bistro here in Montreal and have found you to be such an inspiration. I too, miss my old life. My world has been altered to the point where I actually find raising my 5 kids a breeze! I think that as time goes by, you get stronger and more resilient and your every day strength is doing what you love in life. Keep up your great work and you're not alone.

6:31 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Adriana said...

Find that balance you need, and there's no rush! ...Well, just don't take too long. We need ya! =]

6:37 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger Mom-of-three said...

I was wondering where you were, and hoping that the book and fame is not making you nuts. It is really funny how personal blogging is. Makes us all wonder about you. Hope you are ok.

Looking forward to your next post.

6:42 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

No one can have it all at the same time. We women have been fed a line all these years. I have loved your blog (and book), but came to it late in the game, so to speak. I am going to go back and read "the early years". That should keep me busy until you are back posting more regularly. Take care.....

7:50 PM, October 21, 2009  
Blogger rebecca said...

hey molly. thanks for letting us know. though i'm certain most everyone could have guessed why it's been a little quiet over at the blog. delancey has most definitely NOT been quiet. and you guys are doing a beautiful thing over there. we enjoyed our dinner so much and have told others about it and hope they get to go. i did write about our meal and fun time in seattle. if you have a moment check it out.

9:33 PM, October 21, 2009  
Anonymous Romaine said...

I second Puddlepuss' last sentence of her comment. Not that I'm very good at it myself, but...it's worth the effort.

3:54 AM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger www.Gatto999.it said...

Ciao form Italy

4:25 AM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger jen said...

hang in there. you will find your way back soon. all your hard work is definitely paying off. your restaurant looks amazing. looking forward to seeing some food and pics soon. xoxo

6:05 AM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I saw you in O Magazine this month -- way to go!!!

7:14 AM, October 22, 2009  
OpenID katieleigh said...

We've been missing you - but are so proud of you and your new endeavor. And we'll be here when you get back.

7:26 AM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Katherine said...

Take as much time as you need. The fact that you aren't able to post as often is an indication of how much time and energy goes into each post. Your readers are lucky, not entitled!

And besides, we have the richness of your archives to keep us happy. For instance, I made Brandon's chana masala in my rice cooker the other day (I am severely limited by living in the dorms.) It was a little sad because the rice cooker wouldn't let the onions get brown and toasty, but I was still able to revel in the balance of spice, the contrast in starch and acid. And trust me, it was a welcome alternative to the "Blackened Tofu Montreal" they were serving in the cafeteria.

Thanks again; we're all rooting for you!

8:46 AM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger bugheart said...

glad to see
you here
but totally
i wonder
how a restaurant
to the last
year of
grad school.
i think
having a restaurant
is harder...
so my heart
goes out to you.
wish you
a return
of energy
and balance.

9:33 AM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Danielle said...

I discovered your blog in a magazine on a plane ride back from Seattle in June. I was there to run the marathon and my hubby gave me a card with the following quote that I have to share, "Life does not put things in front of you that you are unable to handle" -unknown. Take care of you!

10:27 AM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Rosie said...

Just seeing the number of comments on this one post ought to re-energize you!

10:49 AM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger DGM said...

Each and every post of yours is written with heart and soul. They are all "real". And that alone is always inspiring.

Thank you and hang in there. It does get better at some point, just as it does with kids. :)

11:06 AM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Nurit said...

Yes, I heard that comment on the radio show.
I can only imagine how stressful and tiring owning, running, and working in your own restaurant can be.
You ask how people with babies do it (or kids for that matter, because you know... babies do grow and the cute cooing is gone. But then you have a sweet toddler running around. Then one day they are TEENagers! Ok, 'nough about that). I contantly battle with feeling uncreative or uneager to cook. This is what it's like when I try to do too much and do it all perfectly. I end up feeling I'm not doing a great job with anything. I'm starting to give up on the idea of finding "balance", it just drives me crazy. I tend to think more in terms of "choices" and focusing on what's most important and makes me feel good.

11:09 AM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hang in there! You've gone through a huge transition, and change is hard, even when it's change for the better. We all miss your posts, but truly understand. Take care of yourself!

11:10 AM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger Kelsey B. said...

Having a baby is all about finding a new a balancing act, too. Take it from me, all I can do now is cook during her naptime (Naptime Chef). It will balance out soon, hang in there!

12:15 PM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Colleen said...

Be well, get some rest, find your way back to you, and all the while - enjoy that Battlestar Galactica - it's awesome!

12:30 PM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Molly, I've been so worried about you and I don't even know you. I have been using your break to read all your archives. Such a wealth of info. You have really established a strong fan base. Your book was great, loved it.

1:14 PM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger ParisBreakfasts said...

The picture of how hard chefs work became crystal clear to me when I was a house photographer at the Jame Beard Foundation. I loved how they dance around the kitchen and painted them, but man they are the hardest working artists I know!
Bon chance with Delancey

1:28 PM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger civita said...

We (and I'm sure I speak for everyone) have not forgotten about you either, Molly! I imagine that running a restaurant is an endless and exhausting job! Look forward to hearing more whenever you make it back here. In the meantime, grab a few winks and whatever else is restorative.

5:07 PM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger Jamie said...

We all will miss your posts, but this time of your life is SO important. Don't feel bad for taking time off to live it.

5:36 PM, October 22, 2009  
OpenID thecatskillkiwi said...

at least you have been choosing wisely with your netflix! BSG!!! zowie what a show!

5:39 PM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger ab said...

Hey, good luck. I always keep checking for a new post so hopefully you'll get your energy and inspiration back soon! And in the meantime, Battlestar Galactica rocks!

5:40 PM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger Julia Dunaway said...

Molly, I just want to tell you that I love your book and reading about your family. I feel a great link to you and hope you never stop writing.

6:48 PM, October 22, 2009  
Blogger rachel said...

I am so excited that Delancy is up and running and doing well. Friends were just there and said it was fabulous. How I wish I still lived in Seattle so I could try it for myself! Good luck!!!!!

7:39 PM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I fell asleep in the dentist's chair once when I was completely exhausted. I was having a filling, or something where they had to work for a while. They actually have a little rubber thing to prop your mouth open so you don't have to do the tiring work of controlling your own jaw...they offered to pop it in, and I took a nap. :)

8:03 PM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Battlestar Galactica rocks. I miss you.

8:42 PM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Eliane said...

I'm with Lisa. I would volunteer some hours a week to help you out. My dad had a bakery and it was hard work, Monday to Monday non-stop... I used to work behind the counter during the weekends, not so nice when all of your friends are hanging out or something. But I learned a lot and I am thankful for that. I hope you can find good employees who believe in the restaurant and feel they are part of it and also a good manager to help you with the customers, finances, deliveries and employees...lalala...
Do not loose your focus, your dreams, you are accomplishing what most of people are afraid or are too lazy to do.
We will be here for you, this is the least thing we can do,you have given us so much !

10:45 PM, October 22, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you are so loved by your readers. you give so much to us. i imagine you must be giving a whole lotta love to the restaurant. maybe you're not getting enough time to recharge. i wish you all best in this transition time. you will make this work for you - perhaps delegating some of your responsibilities would ease things for you. concertedly give yourself molly time for things you love! rooting for you! and always a fan.

1:19 AM, October 23, 2009  
Blogger Shaun said...

Hi Molly.. Just finished reading your book. Great job! I can't wait to try the recipes. I'm also a big Springsteen fan and thought you might enjoying reading about the dinner I had with Little Steven and Gary Tallent; http://shaunsre.blogspot.com/2007/10/its-gonna-be-long-walk-home.html

7:04 AM, October 23, 2009  
Blogger Michelle Stiles said...

Balance is the key to life and happiness. Finding balance might be the hardest persuit int the world (for some of us, and I am probably a posterchild).
Keep your head up and live your passion!

7:08 AM, October 23, 2009  
Anonymous EdibleMarie said...

Running a restaurant sucks up all time. Perfectly understandable.

8:15 AM, October 23, 2009  
Blogger Katie said...

Peace will come, all your hardwork will pay off, and we will be patient and understanding while you are going through this different season. Find the glory in this crazy chaotic time of your life, suck in the experience, because someday you will look back and smile.

10:59 AM, October 23, 2009  
Blogger Caroline said...


I miss reading your weekly posts, but take your time! As others have said, we'll be here!


4:59 PM, October 23, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As others have said, I'm sure you will find a balance - and when you are ready to come back to the blog, I, like many others of your devoted readers, will be waiting for you - just hope it's sooner rather than later!

I converted my Mum into a fan of yours back in May, and she's been eagerly trying out recipes from your book. Also, I made Doron's meatballs (with lamb) for a fundraiser last Saturday evening and they were very popular - now all my friends are clamoring for me to make them again - so thank you for the inspiration... and hang on in there :-)


6:29 PM, October 23, 2009  
Blogger La Tartine Gourmande said...


Hopefully -- and I am sure it will -- just like with cute babies, it will get better with time, and the nights will be filled again with quality sleep. It's a roller coaster at the beginning, and nothing looks right when there is not enough "dodo", pas vrai?

Bonne chance, c'est une super aventure and you should feel proud of doing it!

8:34 PM, October 23, 2009  
Blogger Ilaria said...

New will become normal, and you will have a life again (said she, not having run a restaurant, ever). I miss your posts, and console myself cooking from your book. Guess what: everything so far has turned out how you describe it: I even made the glazed salmon and I hadn't touched cream in years. So: thank you, stay sane and be well, your readers will be here.

12:31 AM, October 24, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Molly,

Please don't give up!! I'm sure everyone will want to kill me for this comment, but looking back it seems like Delancey was your husband's dream, not yours! I'm not trying to cause marital discord, but I believe that sometimes you have to realize that one person's dream in a marriage may not be the other person's dream too. You are such a talented writer and photographer. It sounds like you are on your way back to doing that and you are doing great!

2:49 AM, October 24, 2009  
Anonymous Moody Food Reviews said...

You'll pull through and your readers will be waiting. :)

8:25 AM, October 24, 2009  
Blogger AnnieLynn said...

Hey Molly,

Hang in there. Having been in your situation I can honestly tell you that opening a restaurant is like being hit by a train. I don't remember the first six months after we opened. You will find your balance, then things will change again and you'll have to re-balance. We rebranded five months ago and I am going through the whole runaway train thing again. Your blog 'What I do now' inspired me. I remind myself this is something I chose, and though the scope of things to do is often daunting, I do love it. Thank you for giving me some clarity.

8:58 AM, October 24, 2009  
Anonymous caroline said...

hi molly
i'm new to your blog but wanted to let you know that's it's been really inspiring getting to know you and your "story" - you are an amazing writer, your posts are perfect. hang in there...seems like you've got loyal fans that aren't going anywhere. in the meantime, i'll keep sifting through your archives. good luck!

best- caroline

9:13 AM, October 24, 2009  
Blogger queenofcups said...

I own a chain of cafe - or my husband does and I've done the stuff you do. It's not funny or anything any one can do to help you, unless an investor giving you 500K so you can have an assistant.

I hate to be dark, but business ownership can suck your money and your soul...especially the food and bev biz. In this fun economy no less! Make careful plans for the
next 5 years

My heart goes out to you,

warmest regards,.

11:24 AM, October 24, 2009  
Blogger kim said...

I'm new to your blog but a huge fan! I'm sending good thoughts your way and look forward to your return - I hope you are able to get some rest!

12:13 PM, October 24, 2009  
Blogger Beegirl said...

I just started your book and wanted you to know how much I am enjoying it. Wishing you well in all you do. It is an honor to be a part of all that you share..

6:18 PM, October 24, 2009  
Blogger Hannah said...

hey molly,
good luck. i can't wait for when you return full-force. I hope you find a balance that works for you :)

8:50 PM, October 24, 2009  
Blogger Anna said...

We'll be here when you make your way back -- in whatever form that takes. Meanwhile, A copy of your book has finally made it to Hong Kong; I'll get myself through the blog downtime with that and with anticipation of my Delancey visit in a month!

3:01 AM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger UNIFORM Studio said...

take your time and take care of yourself!
sending big hugs your way:)

5:32 AM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger Cat and Mouse said...

Take care of yourself, Molly, and try to reclaim some time to recharge your energy. Impossible to do anything with joy and vitality in the face of exhaustion.

5:43 AM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger betty said...

I miss your weekly blogs but totally understand. You are awesome and I hope someday to visit Delancey. Take care of yourself, we're all here for you!

7:46 AM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger Annette said...

my husband and I own a business too. I know exactly how you feel.

9:32 AM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger Melissa A. said...

I just found your blog recently and have checked out your book. I am reading it right now. I can't wait to make your potato salad. I hope you are able to find time to take a rest. I definately have it on my list to make a little visit to your restaurant since In live real close to Seattle.

9:50 AM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger Eva / Sycamore Street Press said...

I had to laugh when you talked about finding the dentist relaxing because the last time I went to the dentist I felt the exact same way. Craziest year of my life....and it sounds like it's the same for you. Hang in there.

2:52 PM, October 25, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know you'll be back full force. It's just not the season for that right now.

6:21 PM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger Emily said...

Thinking of you, girl. And feeling your stress. You can do it!

8:09 PM, October 25, 2009  
Anonymous Maine said...

Hey Molly, John and I went to Delancy tonight. We arrived at 4:40 to be one of the first diners of the evening. We were indeed the first, but only by 4 seconds. Brandon chose our appetizer, pizzas and wine. Everything was delicious. I enjoyed dinner in August before your official opening, but this was even better. We left feeling completely delighted with our experience. Yum yum yum. I am so happy for you and Brandon.

9:11 PM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger kika said...

its who you are in the down times that defines you. Go for it Molly, it's all good!!

9:13 PM, October 25, 2009  
Blogger Garden Goddess said...

One day I was driving to work, hoping to get into a car accident -- not so bad that I was really hurt, but bad enough so I could take a couple of days off and no one would call me a slacker.

That's when I realized something HAD to change... don't get desperate for downtime --

We're okay... checking the blog every 10 days or so is getting a bit like checking the mail for a highly anticipated amazon package -- is it here yet? is it here yet?

10:49 AM, October 26, 2009  
Blogger Rosen Creature said...

Forward momentum.. you can do it! :)

12:30 PM, October 26, 2009  
Anonymous Crystal said...

I started blogging this year and suddenly realised today that I had only posted twice this month, so I agree about the baby - too much goes on but at least that proves that we're alive!

1:44 PM, October 26, 2009  
Blogger rx said...

yes, this is all NORMAL. i just wish i lived near delancey's so i could come eat and hug your neck in person. cheering for you!

2:26 PM, October 26, 2009  
Blogger Knitting Out Loud said...

Everyone knows that restaurant work is exhausting. Naturally the dentist was a mini-vacation.

4:34 PM, October 26, 2009  
Blogger CitricSugar said...

Delancey is a pretty demanding baby! We understand entirely. A blog will still be here when you have time - a restaurant can go up in flames both literally and figuratively if you don't tend to it.

Take care of yourself!

7:44 PM, October 26, 2009  
Anonymous Amy said...

Transitions take time. Focus on your family, your rest, your immediate needs - whatever they may be - and eventually you'll find a balance. I love reading your blog and am willing to wait until you're ready to come back. (Isn't that what archives are for?)

7:57 PM, October 26, 2009  
Blogger S McLaren said...

hey just found your blog and love it. keep it up.

I started this food blog thing too at http://itcheninthekitchen.blogspot.com/ it's blog like this that made me start my own. great read.

5:27 AM, October 27, 2009  
Anonymous nancy at goodfoodmatters said...

Molly, I remember all these feelings when I opened a cafe many years ago--it is just like having a child, takes constant attention and love. Your life is not your own---for a while. While you're in the middle of it all, it seems like some strange unending dreamlike blur----but at some point there will be a shift
I promise! In the meantime, try not to worry, take good care and roll along...

7:14 AM, October 27, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't think any blogger should ever have to apologies for living their life and not blogging. Do what you can and don't apologies for it! (Unless of course we were paying for your service...which we are not!)

Look at it from the other side...If I met you on the street and you said you had to stop working so you could blog, I would probably think you were nuts.

Have a great day.

8:19 AM, October 27, 2009  
Blogger Liz said...

One of the easiest balance inducers (and stress managers) is the tried and true "cleansing breath". Do as many times per day as possible:
Bring your breath into your abdomen - fill up your belly like a balloon - then fill your upper chest. Sniff a tiny bit more in, hold for a 3 count, release slowly.
In for 4 or 6 counts, out for 6 or 8 counts.
Money-back guarantee!

11:18 AM, October 27, 2009  
OpenID meplus3 said...

Just finished your book. Loved it and cannot wait to start cooking!
You'll find your way back to the blog

12:53 PM, October 27, 2009  
Blogger Amaranth said...

I just finished reading your blog from the beginning, and my, what a journey you've had! You inspired me to begin my own food-ish blog, and maybe finally get my home-made baking business off the ground. I know it's been said before, but you truly are an inspiration. A busy, slightly cooky one, and that makes you even greater still! :)

I adore your off-the-wall humor and honest posts. Take a deep breath and enjoy where you are in life. You are indeed an admirable woman!

3:38 PM, October 27, 2009  
Anonymous Denise said...

No matter how exciting the new life, there is often sadness about what is left behind. Molly, you have a lot of support from your readers. I hope you get some good sleep soon. Drink green tea.


5:21 PM, October 27, 2009  
Anonymous Bike Shop Chick said...

Hey, Girl!
Welcome to self-employment! This year I went from March 16th to August 2nd without a day off. My honey and I have a motorcycle oriented business, and here in Minnesota, you gotta get while the gettin's good! It's just me with the apparel store, (he gives me a lunch break) and he keeps our 3 mechanics in parts, and his service customers happy. We're open 7 days-a-week, M-Sat 9-8, Sun 11-6. There's no time for anything. One thing I learned is when I'm at home for lunch, I take a nap. It gives me the gusto to complete the day! I'm in my 50's, and really need that nap!
Nov. 1 we start our winter hours, 10-5, and close Sunday. We'll probably crash all day! Yippee!
Why do we do this? Because we absolutely love it. It doesn't feel like "work." We are a mom & pop shop, and all the customers are my friends!
So remember to have fun! This is YOUR place, and YOU are in control of your happiness! It's all in the focus! Take a deep breath and do a little dance!
And know we'll be out here waiting for your next post!

6:15 PM, October 27, 2009  
Blogger VincentMom said...

No apology needed! Motherhood is rough but I think being an entrepreneur is just as hard. We will wait patiently while you work it all out. Thanks for checking in and letting us know how you are doing.

9:37 AM, October 28, 2009  
Blogger vanessa joie said...

Hang in there! You can do it.

8:29 PM, October 28, 2009  
Anonymous Molly said...

I just stumbled upon your blog this morning (i know where have I been??) and it was almost like your post was meant for me to read. I started a website about a year ago and have been having such a hard time lately finding inspiration to write. Anyway, just had to share and will definitely be reading more. Hope you find your way back soon :).

8:14 AM, October 29, 2009  
Blogger Melanie said...

Did you see this Molly? I know Brian is a friend of yours (it says in the post) but I also know how busy you are. You should read the comments someday too. ;) I hope it makes you smile.

1:43 PM, October 29, 2009  
Blogger Jess said...

give yourself plenty of grace and tenderness. i'm sure you need it. like many others have said, your loyal readers will be here, waiting.

7:18 PM, October 29, 2009  

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